In Defense Of Facebook? A Response

by Matt Ridings on May 18, 2010

Ben Parr, an all around good guy, who also happens to be co-editor over at Mashable, recently wrote an article entitled “In Defense Of Facebook“. He takes the stance that we should not be blaming Facebook for breaching our privacy expectations because that is our own responsibility, not Facebook’s. His primary point is this:

“The central problem is that people believe that Facebook and the web in general should be able to protect the information we post online. I argue that this is untrue, because it goes against the fundamental design of Facebook, social media, and the web itself. We should be relying on ourselves for our privacy, and not turning Facebook into our convenient scapegoat.”

What?

OF COURSE people should believe that Facebook is able to protect their information posted online.  If they didn’t there would be no web as we know it.  The notions of eCommerce, email, instant messaging/chat, online banking, etc. could not exist without that belief.  This statement presumes to make the case that simply because Facebook (or any other social network) is a platform built to facilitate sharing that we should have no right to expect any controls over that sharing process, nor should we be upset if the provider of that platform chooses to change the rules of the game in midstream.  ”Social” does not mean “everyone”.  The “fundamental design” of social media and the web is, and has always been, built on expanding circles of trust.  But hey, if you hadn’t posted that embarrassing information to Facebook you wouldn’t now be upset that they just exposed it to people you didn’t intend to see it right?  This is like Toyota saying “Sure, our brakes failed, but it’s your fault because had you not been driving a car in the first place this never would have happened.”

Imagine if you will..

To be more specific, imagine this scenario.  You arrive at work tomorrow to discover a very angry boss.  It turns out that Twitter decided DM’s were no longer private, and made them available to your circle of followers.  Yours happened to include a lot of very nasty things regarding said boss.  According to Mr. Parr’s argument that is YOUR fault.  If you didn’t want it to get out there, you shouldn’t have said it.  When a service or person sets a reasonable expectation of privacy, you have every right to expect them to uphold it.

Intent makes all the difference

It’s not just that they’ve constantly changed the rules and methods by which your information is exposed and used, it’s that there appears to be every indicator that the INTENT was to make sure that they could purposefully expose it.  The more information of yours they can use and expose to advertisers and services the more money they make.  Under the premise of giving you more granular control of your privacy what they have done is make sure that they can keep adding new privacy options that then circumvent the previous settings you used to have.  That is why there are now 50 privacy settings with over 170 options buried within Facebook.

In addition, with the new profile settings it has become even more blatant, you either agree to display attributes in your bio to the entire world or they are deleted.  There is no choice to selectively share that information anymore.  That is out and out blackmail, there’s no other term for it.  Let’s say you are gay and have a tight knit circle of friends who know this and it’s in your profile, but no one else knows, you now have to either let the entire world see that or delete it.  Facebook is telling you point blank that it wants everything you believe and do to be public, and that it will do everything in its power to push you in that direction.  Tell the world or delete it.

Big Brother Zucker

That new “Like” button you see on websites everywhere?  Did you know if you click on it you just gave that website access to your Facebook information?  Did you know that if you go to Yelp, Pandora, or any of the other new Instant Personalization partners of Facebook that your personal information is automatically made available to them…without you agreeing to it?  Did you know within the short period of time it’s been up it’s already been exploited and exposed those Facebook users information to the hackers?

Kicking The Habit

Facebook is addictive, and they are the crack dealer.  We all love it.  But are you really willing to keep doing business with someone who treats you and your private information this way?  Are your crops in Farmville that important to you?  I’m sorry Ben, but you’ve been sipping the Zuckerberg kool-aid, the notion that Facebook is just being used as a scapegoat is laughable.  Do we have responsibilities as well? Of course.  But we should be able to define those responsibilities within a reasonable framework of risk and trust.

Privacy is dead.” – Mark Zuckerberg, CEO Facebook

Mark Zuckerberg has a vision for the future that he isn’t shy about sharing.  He wants everyone to share everything with everyone.  He may be right, perhaps the world would be a better place if we did.  But you can either convince people of that and lead them to the promise land, or decide what’s best for them yourself and drag them there whether they like it or not.  You be the judge of which camp he is in.

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  • http://jasonkeath.com jakrose

    I think Facebook has a big responsibility here. I think where they are spoiled is that their network is the top dog right now. And people are socially tied to them. Their families and friends live there. They can make big mistakes, be careless with users in order to push their bottom line and live to fight another day.

    As soon as enough users quit or the PR uproar reaches a fever pitch, they make changes. This system is fine until they have a real competitor, unfortunately. They are smart, they will push their users up to the brink and then pull back a little.

    My suggestion, treat Facebook like the rest of the internet, expect that ANYTHING you post might be spread for the world to see.

    Nice take Matt.

  • http://occamsrazr.com Ike Pigott

    “Brother Zucker.”

    Well, at least I now have the final rhyme for that limerick…

  • http://socialmoments.blogspot.com Heather

    I'm glad someone else felt as if they were being blackmailed for their info. My spidey senses tell me that it will backfire. Facebook wants a world where everyone is connected, but if we don't feel safe doing it, we won't. As a marketer, I think the “Like” button will backfire too. I'm very cautious what I like or recommend these days and if others are as well, that reduces Facebook's effectiveness for me. I did add the open graph api to a page on my website but I don't have access to anyone's personal information (that I know of). Maybe they will offer it to me at $ome point. Rest assured, I didn't add the photo option; I think that's creepy. Great article.

  • karimacatherine

    Hi Matt,

    Carrying over a little bit of the conversation we have had over at SM60 chat today, I would like to say that I am not defending Facebook, what I am saying is that knowing that Facebook is a yoyo privacy breacher, coupled with a sense of ownership and no clear long-term vision except to be the Internet, Us, as users have to be careful and aware that our data is not safe with them; We have to act accordingly.

    I do not agree with quitting Facebook because it will make the advocates even more adamant. I bellieve in fighting and involving powers that are as big as Facebook : ie the governments.

    By the way, Nice post Matt!

  • http://www.techguerilla.com/ Matt Ridings – Techguerilla

    Their modus operandi has been to overstep their bounds, and then pull back when the uproar starts..but always pull back to a point at which they are further than they were before. Crowd is appeased and subdued, Facebook is further along in its goals. While not a strategy I subscribe to, there is obviously some merit to it.

    This instance feel a little different to me. I don't sense the demise of Facebook, I do however sense that we may have finally reached the tipping point at which the “privacy movement” gains a foothold in general.

    Thanks for comments.

  • hurriednotes

    Quote: “My suggestion, treat Facebook like the rest of the internet, expect that ANYTHING you post might be spread for the world to see.”

    I disagree.

    No one expects their emails or IM chats to spread for the world to see. It's entirely reasonable to expect such communications to be as private as one had originally decided for them to be. That you typed instead of whispered is not a defining difference.

    If the USPS post office scanned all your correspondence w/ OCR and put it online… if AT&T publicly released all your phone calls they record… if Time Warner released your TV watching records…. if Safeway published your purchases… or Amazon… or if Facebook routinely and surreptitiously betrayed expectations of privacy, a good many people would be unhappy and demand a new relationship (either with a different company or demanding the offending company change its ways). And they'd be right.

    Let's be very clear. It makes all the difference in the world to point out that you're specifically stating that it is possible for your communications to be intercepted and made public. Secrets you whisper in the back pew at church or a remark you made to a co-worker could possibly maybe end up being heard by others. Sure, but that's not the expectation. You'd be rightfully upset at the offending party and seek to remedy their offense.

    Is it possible for your communication to spill into public? Sure. Of course. Internet is no different than speaking.

    Should you expect your private communications to be flagrantly violated repeatedly by the medium itself? Hell no. That's ridiculous.

    To surrender to the idea that we cannot speak or write specific persons without any reasonable expectation of privacy is pure madness. We can exert control over our communications. We often have need to. And people damn sure should be upset when the transmission medium is betraying them.

  • http://jasonkeath.com jakrose

    You cannot compare anything offline to the internet. These are different ecosystems.

    And I am not saying Facebook SHOULD be doing any of this. I say you should expect it, because since day one, Facebook has showed little regard for privacy. I would go by their history and not trust them.

    Same as for Gmail, I do not expect my gmail to be there every day when I log in. I back it up because of the tons of people that have been locked out of their gmail accounts without warning.

    Not justifying Facebook, just saying it is important to consider the reality.

  • http://www.techguerilla.com/ Matt Ridings – Techguerilla

    I could not have put it better myself. Well written.

  • http://www.techguerilla.com/ Matt Ridings – Techguerilla

    Where I differ is in this statement. “..have to be careful and aware that our data is not safe with them; We have to act accordingly”. Who knowingly gives information to someone they knowingly admit is not safe with their data? Insanity that way lies.

  • socialkevin

    Hmm as annoying as some new facebook features can be, it would be so hard and inconvenient to delete my account…

    I follow back on twitter!

    twitter.com/amplivox